“Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
~ Abraham Lincoln
My kids used to hate it when I would tell them this during a childhood crisis. But it’s true. Another way of saying this is, “Only you can make yourself miserable.”
During a period when we are miserable we usually feel that no one understands us or loves us and sometimes we feel that we are not worthy enough to be loved. Our self pity raises its ugly head and those feelings of not being worthy, pretty enough, smart enough, and on and on, take over.
Self pity is a very dangerous emotion as it can trap us into despair and depression.
These negative thoughts usually start in childhood from critical parents, teachers, siblings and or friends. If we are not careful they can become automatic feelings whenever there is a minor crisis. Depression can set in and become long term if not stopped.
We create all that goes on in our lives.
If there is something you don’t like about your life start to change it.
First look within, asking what changes in your attitudes and thoughts can be changed. “Every outer effect is the natural expression of an inner pattern. To battle only the outer effect or symptom is wasted energy and often increases the problem.” Louise Hay
We need to learn to love ourselves.
After all we should be the most important person to ourselves, and we should realize that we are.
See yourself as a positive and worthwhile person, confident and sure of yourself. Reflect on all the positive things about yourself, your creativity, talents and accomplishments. Fill your mind with happy positive thoughts and learn to enjoy life.
Ruth B. Carr RN, MA, CH can be reached at 203-915-0480.