I just said goodbye to a close friend of 51 years. We have gone through a lot together over the years. During this time I lost two sisters, my parents and many friends to death and she lost her parents, brother, husband. Each time there was a lost, we would sit on the phone and talk for hours. Now she is the person that I lost.
For the past 20 years I have had the opportunity to facilitate Bereavement groups. One thing I have learned is that it helps to talk to people. When friends and families move on and your still stuck in grieving its time to join a group. It’s also very helpful to allow others to help. If someone offers to do the dishes, clean your house and so on say YES! We all need other people.
Grief brings with it such a mixture of feelings. We may be angry, relieved confused or depressed. This is perfectly normal. We all grieve in our own way, in our own time. Some people may choose to smile and make the best of it because its too scary to admit how vulnerable we’re feeling. We put on masks and deny to the world how we really feel.
I am not the only person who will miss my friend, she is leaving her sons and her precious grandchildren plus friends. But for me I can only say it has been a privilege to be your friend, confident and “boss” for the majority of our lives. Goodbye Tina, you are now at home with the Lord.
Life is very short tell your family and friends how important they are to you.
I can be contacted at Behavior Options Hypnosis 203-915-0480.